Wednesday 2 October 2013

The Babymoon Boom

Hi I'm Karenna from Hope and Honey - offering HypnoBirthing classes, natural childbirth classes, birth pool hire and much more in Perth, Western Australia. Here's my latest blog about babymoons:

We did it, most of my friends did it - there's even a term for it! Yes the babymoon is high on the 'To Do' list of many parents-to-be. Defined as a vacation taken by a couple that is expecting a baby in order to enjoy a final trip together before the demands of a newborn baby come along - it's become big news.

We recently took 10 days out for a trip to Bali and I must say I'm really glad we did. Like most expecting couples we were on the treadmill of trying to squeeze everything in before bub - so we'd just moved house, I was officially launching Hope & Honey, studying, setting up the baby's room....etc. So even though it felt like an expense we could do without, it was a good move. We relaxed, went for massages, long dinners, reading, swimming, lounging by the pool - it was pure heaven. Not normally ones to sit still on holiday (we're normally changing trains, changing currency and changing hotels more times than hot dinners!) it was a bit of a revelation. Now we are on the home straight to meeting our little one in a few weeks, I know that we will both look back on that time as really precious.


Our Bali Babymoon x
But did you know that the term 'babymoon' was officially coined by Sheila Kitzinger to mean a private time at home for the parents and their newborn to enjoy some time together and bond. Arguably, this type of babymoon is just as, if not more, important than pre-baby chill out time. With the introduction of paternity leave and more companies being flexible about time off around the birth; many families are able to get this precious time together. It can be a crazy time, particularly for first-time parents, where new skills are being learnt, sleep is a bit hit-and-miss and family and friends often descend for visits. 

My advice is to plan yourself a post-baby Babymoon too. Be strict with visitors - if they're just there to coo over the baby and don't offer to take the washing out or vacuum your floors - ask them to wait a few weeks before coming round. You don't want to spend the baby's best hours of the day wishing your visitors would nip off so you can have a sleep or just enjoy that time yourself. Also people can wait a few weeks - it's important that both of you and the baby are happy and settled before inviting the hoards round and yes you do have a choice!

Be kind to yourself and kind to each other - it's a period of adjustment for all of you, baby included! So don't be hard on yourself about what you're doing right or wrong, take advice on board and then make your own decision, don't be afraid to ask for support if you need it and if you can - snatch some time just Mum, Dad & Bub to just be together. Your baby has been bonding with you all the way through pregnancy, listening to your voices & feeling your emotions, but it's a very special time just after birth and one you can't get back. So let's bring back the good old-fashioned meaning of the Babymoon - not worrying about the housework, those pesky tasks and other people; take some time just for you and your new family member.

With love xx

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